With marriage equality now a reality across the river, many gay and lesbian couples in New Jersey are watching the political scene closely, wondering how the New York legislation will affect them.  Reactions to the June 27th decision have been mixed, with many couples saying they can’t wait to “really” get married (citing both emotional and practical reasons) and others saying they won’t be content until legislation supporting same-sex marriage is approved on a federal level, arguing that it’s a basic human right.   “When we "get" gay marriage across the nation -- and we will, it's a clear-…