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My Friend Is Getting A Divorce. What Can I Do or Say To Help?

What can I do or say that would help a friend going through a divorce?


Although your friend is female my answers would be equally
helpful to a man.

1.  Give
     him/her the opportunity to talk. Often, in an effort to be helpful, we
     ourselves talk too much.

  1. Listen
         when he/she talks. As I said, in an effort to be helpful, we ourselves
         talk too much.

  • Don’t
         judge or criticize what the person is saying. This is not the time to make
         constructive suggestions!!!

  • Allow
         them to express feelings/allow them to feel feelings.

  • Tell
         them about your own experiences, if you have divorced yourself, so that
         they  don’t feel alone.

  •  Be helpful- Life’s everyday chores and
         responsibilities feel overwhelming to someone getting divorced. A helping
         hand is really appreciated.

  • Depending
         on the stage of your friend’s divorce, try to shed a positive bent on the
         situation. Many milestones, however unexpected or unwanted, have a silver
         lining.
  • By, Divorce Information NOW
     
    "Divorce
    Information Now" is an ongoing column where readers can submit questions about
    divorce in the comment stream and we will respond in subsequent blogs. Find us
    at http://www.divorceinformationnow.com/ "


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