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You Said It: Are You Disappointed the Same-Sex Marriage Bill Did Not Pass?

Community members give their thoughts on same-sex marriage not becoming a reality.

Today's "You Said It!" series asked members of the community this question:

Are you disappointed Maryland's same-sex marriage bill did not pass?

Gov. Martin O'Malley was ready to sign the bill that would have legalized same-sex marriage. After the House Judiciary Committee and legislators , it was sent back to the committee, effectively for the year.

So — what do you think?

Natalie Davis March 15, 2011 at 05:45 PM
Ma. Blackburn, what does "sacred" have to do with secular law? Why does your religion get to dictate who has equal rights in this state? Marriage equality covers civil marriage; your church -- which, IMO is indeed discriminatory and, as a private organization, can be discriminatory -- deals with religious marriage. The legality allowed to piggyback is the civil marriage portion of the matter. As for hateful... we will have to agree to disagree. Denying rights to other people is the definition of hateful in my book.
Mitchell March 15, 2011 at 06:25 PM
I am so tired of this cause trying to be labeled a 'civil rights' issue or 'equal rights'. Civil marriage is between a man and women, no matter if you are heterosexual or homosexual. And stop comparing the plight of African-Americans to homosexuals. I love all of mankind, and just because I am against changing marriage laws to accommodate a minority, does not make me a bigot or hateful person.
Natalie Davis March 15, 2011 at 06:38 PM
Well, Mitchell, that is your opinion and you are entitled to it. Many people disagree with you. In six states and the District of Columbia, your opinion is factually untrue. Also a fact: Civil marriage is a function of the state, not the church. Houses of worship offer religious marriage and are, as a courtesy (much like the tax break they enjoy), allowed to have civil status attached to their religious rites, but civil marriage and religious marriage are two different things. (I know this, having been married in a court of law, NOT in a church.) Law evolves, and citizens who believe that they are saddled with second-class status have every right to work toward changing that. Speaking for myself, the fact that legal marriages involving gay couples -- and they already exist -- do not affect my opposite-gender marriage at all. Truth be told, my husband and I are happier knowing that our friends in same-gender relationships have the same ability to have their marriages made legal. Oh, and regarding your demand, no, I will not stop making the comparison. As a brown-colored person who has suffered from pigmentation-motivated bigotry, I see the comparison as entirely valid, and I have the same entitlement to voice my opinion as you do. If that troubles you, c'est la vie. I am troubled by legal inequity within a construct that claims (mendaciously) to offer equality for all under law. This is supposed to be America: We all get to speak our piece.
Sandy March 15, 2011 at 11:47 PM
Has anyone thought to look back a generation and realize that you couldn't Marry someone of another race. It was against the Law. My Pastor spoke about being born out of Wedlock because his Father is Japanese and his Mother is Hawaii / Portugese. His father's family was horrified at the thought of a marriage across racial lines and sent him away. He never met his own father even though he was just on another Island here in Hawaii. Do you remember the Lovings of VA. they almost spent 10 yrs. in prison for Marrying . Why? Because he was white and she was black. Because they had to return to the State years later, they found they had to fight a legal battle that ended up changing Marriage Laws in America. We need to ask America why LGBT Marriages are not protected & covered by our Nations "Full Faith & Credit" .
Mahlia Joyce March 17, 2011 at 02:50 PM
Thank you Natalie D for being another voice of a "brown-colored" person who is on the right side of this issue! I don't know that the Civil Rights activists of a generation ago intended for same-sex marriage to be part of the Civil Rights discourse (otherwise, they would have been much kinder and more accepting of Bayard Rustin and others), however, they opened the door. Let others walk through it for crying out loud! I am very disappointed in the bill dying. I'm even more disappointed in the letter that I received from my "representative" explaining why he was right and I was wrong. As someone who is in support of equal rights for ALL and who far too often has experienced gender and racial discrimination in my community, I'm feeling very heavy-hearted these days.

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